We Are Who We Surround Ourselves With

Doesn’t all of this sound like a self-help book haha. I had someone tell me today that my positive attitude makes them want to punch me in the face! I took it as a compliment.  It’s good to write and release; and there is nothing better for when I get down then to read something I wrote at some point when I had a better attitude towards it.

But to get to the point of this; birds of a feather flock together. I’ve always thought that clichés exist because they are so true they’ve just been worn out.

Those who smoke typically hang around others who smoke, musicians spend time with musicians, and partiers will all be found together at the club; it’s not exactly science here, it’s simply observation. We enjoy being around people who are like us; it’s safety within our comfort zone.

But what if our comfort zone is not the best option for us?

I’ve always been proud of my friends; they are amazing people. I don’t give credit to myself for being the person I am; it all goes to my friends and family. Sure I spend time with many types of people, but at the end of the day I surround myself with supportive, loyal, and loving influences. I have full control over who I let in and out of my life.

We aren’t victims of our social scene. Anyone can change his or her clothing, hair, or even attitude to fit in; what’s important is to understand what is best for us in the end. Sometimes this can be the hardest decision of all.

There is nothing in here saying to dump your friends. If you are happy with who you are and where you are headed in life, then all is good. But I’ve learned before that sometimes we hold ourselves back by people who aren’t concerned with our best interests.

I can promise the people who will lift you up, support your decisions, and stay on your team, are the ones to keep around. You might not be identical in interests or activities, but positive attitudes can rub off on others and eventually lead to great things.

- M.

Best Friends

True friends are hard to come by. It is a very intimate relationship to trust someone with secrets, hardships, and special memories. A best friend is like a fingerprint; it is one of a kind and unique to just you two. This also applies to relationships, seeing as how most people who are together call each other “best friends” (regardless of whether they really are or not).

Being a best friend involves a mutal agreement to always stand beside each other, always forgive each other, and never forget. Sometimes they grow apart, but there is always a connection.

What amazes me is when people are so quick to “friend skip” and just go from person to person with no regard for anyone but themselves. Time and effort will build trust….not words and borken promises.

You can hurt me; and I promise I can hurt badly….but when you just try and forget me, it really shows the lack of friendship. When someone is worth having on your side, on your team, always there…then you do what it takes to keep them around. But pointing fingers, jumping to conclusions that “they hate you” so you should just go on and forget about them because they’ve done it to you; well that isn’t much of a friend.

I make a promise to anyone who has stood by my side, to anyone that has comforted me when I’ve cried, and anyone who has forgiven me for being human and never let me walk away angry…you have a friend for life. And I will be the most fierce in a fight for your honor and for your justice.

I love you all.

- M.